Mastin Kipp is adorable. I know…tell you something you don’t know.
For those of you who don’t know Mastin, he is the brains behind the wildly popular twitter and e-mail business called “The Daily Love”. What started out as a way to send uplifting and positive messages to his friends became a movement for those looking to empower themselves with positivity. His new book “The Daily Love: Growing into Grace” is his story and his take on turning trauma into power. In fact those are the first words on the book jacket. Mastin went from living the life of a wealthy, successful VP at a Hollywood recording company at 21, to crashing and being left to burn…addicted to cocaine and other interesting substances and living in the pool house of his ex-girlfriend.
So what does he have to do with cancer?
He asks a very interesting question:
If trauma in your life (in my case it was cancer) was a gift from The Divine, could you find the grace?
He’s not saying the trauma IS a gift…he’s saying IF it were a gift, could you find the grace in it?…he’s not saying trauma is a good thing…he’s simply asking a question. It’s a very interesting question and one that I am very familiar with because of the book I co-wrote, and it’s the subject of his new book.
After hearing him speak, 3 of us got to ask questions. I was one of them. I didn’t know what I was in for when I was handed the mike….
Me: “Mastin…how can you tell the difference between listening to your true calling and following your purpose…… versus delusions of grandeur and conceit?”
Mastin: Who didn’t you get enough love from…your mom or your dad?
Me: Um….what does that have to do with the question? Besides my Dad is gone.
Mastin: Just answer it. And don’t think that just because your Dad is dead that he still doesn’t have influence over you. Who did you crave love or attention from and you didn’t get it?
Me: Does anyone else want this microphone? …..(laughter)…..I guess my mom.
Mastin: And what was she like? How would she approve or disapprove of you?
Me: She was very proper. We all had to be clean and properly dressed in public. It mattered what people thought of us in public. And we didn’t brag about stuff. No one liked a braggart.
Mastin: So would your mom approve of you getting noticed and saying you are…..what is it you want to do?
Me: I want to help those who have gone through cancer and help them lead a healthy & happy life. I’ve been learning about cancer survivorship for the past 9 years and I know a lot.
Mastin: OK so you had cancer?
Mastin: And you want to put your name out there and be recognized as someone who knows a lot about cancer and wants to help others live better? This is your passion and your purpose?
Me: Yes absolutely.
Mastin: But you’re stuck because of how you were brought up. We get caught up in what we were programmed to think as kids. It’s very hard to break that thought pattern, but you need to recognize that. Don’t let your old thought pattern of “don’t brag about what you know…don’t get noticed” that you learned when you were small keep you from following your passion now. How do you feel right now?
Me: Relieved and excited because I didn’t know why I was feeling that way.
Mastin: So what are you going to do?
Me: I’m going to keep following my passion.
It was pretty cool and if you’ve ever watched any of Tony Robbins’s videos when he works with individuals in crowds it was just like that. He really nailed it. I was raised not to be a braggart, so it feels wrong to promote myself…even if it means I can’t fulfill my passion.
Does this ring true for anyone else? Were you raised to be a certain way and it’s still haunting you by influencing the things you want to do today?
I attended the event with my friend Mara, and before we went to the show we made this amazing dinner for ourselves. Sorry if the title of this post made you think that Mastin ate with us. We only wish he did….Here’s the simple and easy recipe:
Spaghetti Squash and Veggies with a Creamy Miso Sauce.
- 1 spaghetti squash (about 3 pounds or so)
- 1 small eggplant peeled and cut in 1 inch cubes (about 1-2 pounds)
- 1 yellow or red pepper diced
- 1/4 -1/2 red onion thinly sliced
- Extra virgin olive oil (organic if possible)
- 1/4 cup chopped mushrooms, tomatoes (optional)
- 2 tablespoons miso paste (I used red)
- 2 tablespoon Tahini (sesame paste…you can sub out hummus and reduce the amount of water)
- 3-4 tablespoons of water (depending on how thick/thin you like your sauce)
- 1-2 teaspoons raw honey or any sweetener you like like stevia or xylitol
Wash and place the whole spaghetti squash in the oven on a baking sheet on 350 degrees for 1 hour. You can cook this a day ahead of use the “timed cook” feature on your oven. (It’s fine to leave it in the oven for longer than 1 hour when it shuts off automatically) A fork should go in easily if it’s done.
Heat 1 tablespoon of olive oil in a large skillet over medium heat and cook onions and peppers for about 8 minutes until soft and fragrant. Add 1 tablespoon olive oil and eggplant (add others stuff if you want…mushrooms, tomatoes, walnuts, sesame seeds, etc.) Cook stirring continuously for about 8-10 minutes. Turn off heat.
Mix sauce ingredients well with a fork making sure to stir until smooth.
Cut squash in half, and remove seeds. Rake a fork over the flesh to scoop out the “spaghetti” and place on your plate. Cover with the veggies and top with the sauce. Mix well.
Makes 2 servings if you’re eating as a main or 4 if it’s a side. This is so filling and really healthy! See what else you can add!
Check out The Daily Love if the mood hits you. He’s got 585K followers on twitter @mastinkipp His book is a quick read and it’s written like he’s talking to you (a lot like our book) so it goes quick. It’s very inspiring and fascinating if nothing else.
Mastin Kipp’s on tour currently, so see if he’s coming to your town!